This is interesting as the LW doesn't consider being friends, just pursuing a "romantic" relationship.
I like these site because I get to see community responses and in most cases people present their reasoning well. It got pretty far in before work friends was suggested. In this instance I would definitely go that path and see how things worked out. Boss's daughter, job the LW loves. As some people pointed out, there are those who are very different at and away from work and "work friends" can bridge that gap.
But I would be a big proponent of that route. Fred and I met at school and were friends for many months before entering a relationship. Since we've been married I've been had many work friends. Some have ended up being friends of both of us, some his and some have remained just mine.
http://www.askamanager.org/2018/06/ask-the-readers-should-i-date-my-bosss-daughter.html
I’ve never had a relationship where I wasn’t friends first. How does that even work? ( Not being critical, actually curious.)
ReplyDeleteI was on a gig in Chicago, lovely firm, first rate people, ( first rate everything, very posh ) , two of the people fell in love. Relatively junior personnel. The firm threw them a wonderful engagement party - which was also a goodbye party for him - he would be going to work across Wacker Drive at Quaker Oats, where the firm had arranged to put him. That's one of the real benefits of a membership at Union League Club, you get to make arrangements like that over a club lunch.
ReplyDeleteWork and romance never mix. Just don't: for the sake of your career and emotional wellbeing - don't commingle work and romance. Never let your career get in the way of your love life, that's not wise either: in a pinch, choose your heart. You can be replaced at work, find your own replacement if necessary. But trying to coexist with someone after a breakup, that's just impossible. And I don't understand why people keep asking this question.
The only way I can see a work relationship working is if it's a big company and you wouldn't even be in the same building. There have been a few like that here.
ReplyDelete